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Vivek's problem is the problem a lot of immigrant kids from shame-based cultures have in trying to absorb into American life. In their home culture, they are shamed for not succeeding. I am not Indian but I know for a fact that shaming is very strong in many such households - the push for the kids to "succeed" in terms of wealth and image-driven success is over the top. It's not talked about and to many of those kids it is simply normal life.

To Americans who don't grow up that way, it is weird.

Native born Americans who don't come from such shame-based culture approach things differently. It's perfectly fine for a 20 year old man in native-born American culture to join the military, work in construction, be a musician, or do odd jobs for a few years until he settles on a more secure path. As long as he can support himself, that's what matters - and sometimes he doesn't support himself. Society is generally OK with that.

In shame-based immigrant cultures, such an approach would be ridiculed and mocked mercilessly - the kid would not be able maintain his emotional sobriety. He is driven to succeed just to keep the haranguing at bay.

Vivek definitely succeeded in terms of wealth and notoriety, but he oozes the persona that many kids ooze who succeed in shame based cultures according to those cultural terms - the arrogant image that says "I am better than you."

Most native born Americans can sense this and despise this implicit messaging. It is not a racist response but a "who the heck are you - why do you think you should rule over us?"

Best description I've read of Vivek is he's the self-congratulatory overachiever, image-conscious know-it-all guy in high school who most people find to be too much.

The skills that served him well to thrive in a shame-based culture are not appreciated or liked in broader American culture. If he crashes and burns in American politics, it's because of this.

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Hindu Vegetarian anchor-babies with non citizen fathers aren't on my list of Americans.

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